Overcoming a Sense of Shame from the Book Create Abundance
In his book, Create Abundance, Zhang Xinyue, teaches us how to overcome a sense of shame. He explains how parents can pass this on to their children.
How Does A Sense of Shame Begin?
One ancient Chinese proverb says: “Blame yourself as you blame others; forgive others as you forgive yourself.”
The sense of shame usually begins in childhood. A child does something wrong or bad, then the parent tries to bring correction. They make the child feel shameful because he or she has committed this awful act. Though it’s a way of correcting behavior, it can also stay with the child into adulthood.
Create Abundance, Zhang Xinyue
This is true of many of the things we hear, learn and experience as children. Our minds are pliable. They are easy to teach. But they are also easy to scar. A child might hear parents arguing too much and this can make them nervous or anxious. A child might accidentally see parents having sex and this can leave them with an indelible memory.
Sometimes we get into adulthood with a sense of shame and have no idea how it got there. All we know is that it causes us trouble. And too often, the doctor or the preacher do not know how to help someone in this situation. You must do this yourself. You must realize that there’s nothing shameful about you. You’ve done nothing wrong. You are no better or no worse than anyone else. Each person makes mistakes. No one is perfect. Forgive yourself for your sins and mistakes. Let them go and be free!